When I launched my blog, I told my thirteen year old daughter we could learn the technical stuff together and that maybe she could have her own Thesis blog some day. By the end of the day, she’d written this post for ‘hers’ and shown it to me. Whether you have kids or not, grandchildren or tweenagers, I hope you’ll understand why this made me melt with pride. I haven’t edited a single thing. Please welcome my daughter, ‘JD’; I called this blog Sharing The Journey because of her.
The Meaning of Mistakes by JD
There have been many times in my life, when thoughts along these lines have entered my head:
“If only I could turn back time”
“I wish I’d made that decision instead of that one”
“Why did I have to do/say/act like that?”
“I should have kept my mouth shut”
“I should have spoken up”
If only…I wish…why…I should…
Thoughts following actions and decisions that have caused undesirable effects and situations.
Regret. And more regret.
Turns out human beings can’t turn back time. The thing is, would I, even if it was possible?
Well, from my thought processes the obvious answer would be yes. I would be able to save myself from the pain of my mistakes, be able to make what appeared to be the right choices.
I could put in more time and effort for revising for that test … spend my money on something that matters, rather than that silly impulse buy … save myself from blurting out that nasty thought running through my brain … control my anger and apologise in time, to prevent hurting the people I care about. To have shown so much more love and appreciation. I’d be able fix all these things, and more.
But, as I sit here, I’m wondering if the obvious answer is always the right one. I’m thinking about why the universe lets us make mistakes in the first place. Why do people have to go through such pain and anguish, the feeling of helplessness as they know they can’t reverse the past?
For such a big question, is it possible for there to be a simple and uncomplicated answer?
I look around. Stop typing for a long, silent moment. And I think, yes, there is.
Why do we make mistakes? It’s so we can learn.
You’re probably thinking, “How does that work? Learning? How is that supposed to make up for our mistakes?”
It’s simple. We learn from our mistakes. They are there for us to grow, to look back, to think, “I’ve changed since then. I can change.” They’re there so we can see what we’ve done wrong, and if we are ever faced with a similar situation in the future, we can attempt to make a different choice, to be a better human being. Think back – if you had not made those mistakes in your past, would you be the person you are today?
Our mistakes our part of us. They make us. They symbolise that we are only human, that life is not one predictable, easy stretch. That it has many obstacles and tribulations along the way.
Can we always fix our mistakes? No. But we can always learn from them.
Because we’re not perfect. Because we all make mistakes.
Which ‘mistakes’ in your life have carried the biggest blessings?