The House of the Thousand Horrormoans

salmon swimming upstreamClearly there is some tenacity, some deeper longing to keep keeping on, that lies at the heart of the human experience. I don’t think we cleave to life for no other reason than that we’re afraid of death. I think we cleave to life out of a deeper knowing that there is something about it that has not happened yet. Like salmon rushing upstream, we instinctively know that we are here to continue the process of life. That we are the process of life. And as such, we’re here to contribute to a larger drama than our individual selves could ever fathom, much less describe. ~ Marianne Williamson, from The Age of Miracles: Embracing the New Midlife

I logged on yesterday to see if I had any comments on my Kitchen Table post or any personal emails. It was an eye-opener; I’ve had very few personal emails this last few weeks, but those I got were heartwarming. The rest of what I consider to be ’emails’ were actually email alerts telling me that my favourite bloggers had posted. I pressed DELETE, thinking “Archives…that’s what they’re for…”

I logged on last week to post a wee note explaining my absence and was horrified to discover the server had taken my blog down. I still have no idea why they did; apparently it happens to a lot of folk. The lesson there? BACK UP EVERYTHING, then let go and don’t catastrophise!!!!!

There are many reasons for my silence, but it’s mainly because I haven’t been feeling very well. In between bouts of feeling washed out and weary, I’ve given in to the temptation of overdoing things when I’m feeling less buffeted. I suffer from periodic phases of  ferritin depletion, caused by mineral malabsorption and a clash between my daily thyroid meds and my iron absorption. (I had a tumour removed after Chernobyl.) I’m on antibiotics and extra iron now and feeling much brighter.

Turns out, I’ve also had an infection on top of the menopausal nasties and exhaustion. (Tiredness goes with the territory when you have teenagers and an eighty-four year old lone parent.) Some days I feel like I’m in the middle of a Jet Li film called ‘The House of the Thousand Horrormoans’. (That’s what my son called hormones when we first explained puberty and the wonders of womanhood to him!)

For many women, our deepest craving is for a place to relax. ~ Marianne Williamson

Despite the dips, I’m still feeling very serene at my core and am focused on slowly but surely getting rid of 80% of the contents of my home. I’ve also been out and about when I feel the urge, remembering life before laptops. We bought new curtains (ehm, we had to…my husband came home one day and found the old ones binned and nothing left at the windows except our wooden venetian blinds.) Illness&exhaustion&no-blogging has given me back my clarity, integrity and serenity as well as a surge of boldness. I’ve disliked the curtains for ten years, but kept them because they were custom-made in colours that matched the rust and green sofas and rugs. After they went, the 15 year old permanently grubby rug went too….then the battered back-breaking green sofa….) Currently, we are down to two small sofas and are rugless, but happy. It’s inspired us to paint the living room next month and finally lay the new wooden floor that’s been in packs in the attic for three years!

I don’t recommend getting overwhelmed, ill and exhausted as the wake-up call that demands an integrity investigation, but it feels like I’ve cleared the way for all sorts of happiness and prosperity and a new phase of life. Maybe my birthday fest last month had a deeper knock-on effect than I thought!

It might take ten years to discover how to build a business and then another ten to learn how to be the most compassionate human being — add ten more to find out how to be the best mate or parent, and somewhere around our 50’s or 60’s we’re ready to live our most shining lives. ~ Marianne Williamson

Giving myself permission to celebrate for five days, one for each decade, family photo croppedgave me a real boost of integrity. I’m the only bridge between my past life and the life to come. I need to stay serene and healthy, focused and present in order to enjoy my NOW, but I don’t need to keep hundreds of letters, ornaments, and books in order to remember who I am, to know who I am, define who I am or show who I am. I promised a few of you I’d post a photo soon, well here I am; this is from a family photo from the summer before last.

I started blogging to share my life journey with others and to give others a place to share theirs. To do that, I need, quite simply, to have a life in the first place, to live as fully as I can, with presence and awe so that I can capture and filter the essence of the moments I long to share.  My life revolves around my family, my home and my creativity, but I also need to read, to connect and to soak up as much nature as I can. If  I want to make the best possible use of my life and energy, I can no longer spend large chunks of my day on blogging-related activities.

I’ll still be blogging, still be supporting and enjoying fellow bloggers, but in order not to burn out and crash again, I need to accept that I have blogging OCD and work around that awareness.

I’m really sorry I didn’t put up a post to explain my absence, but I feel as if my spirit told me to go blogging cold turkey last month to get some real clarity around why I blog and what I’d miss if I stopped. I seem to write as many posts about my blogging breaks as I do about parenting, writing or homelife coaching. That has to stop or I’ll bore both of us.

I’m glad you’re still here, and if I go AWOL again, I hope you’ll understand and bear with me. I missed connecting with you. That’s why I logged back on.

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58 thoughts on “The House of the Thousand Horrormoans

  1. I’ve changed the date stamp on this comment so I can say thank you to everyone who’s commented or read and not commented. I’ll reply to everyone individually after I post this.

    Part of me couldn’t believe that people came back, but part of me realises it’s no coincidence. I choose the blogs I read, the places I comment. The people I resonate with aren’t just writers and homemakers, parents, artisans and people whose lives are spent supporting others; they’re people who can smell a fake a mile off, folk who are gifted and passionate, wise and experienced, who know the soul’s seasons and long for more authenticity and genuine self expression in their lives.

    Someone once told me you don’t burn out unless you’ve been on fire in the first place. My biggest challenge is to maintain a steady pilot light and make sure I always have enough fuel so that I don’t burn out.

    I’m deeply grateful that our community is made up of people who are innately supportive, people who choose to try to make the world a bit brighter, a bit kinder and a bit less sarcastic and smug. The bloggers and commenters here, and in my favourite blogs, bring authenticity, depth and kindness to the blogging world.

    You keep me blogging.

  2. We all need a break now and then. From anything,most everything and that includes blogging.

    Besides quality is always better than quantity, but I am glad to see you back

    • Thanks LG! You’re so right. I often ignore, to my cost, the little whisperings that say Take a break…take a break… and the universe ends up having to slap me in the face to get my attention.

  3. Janice: Be true to you and the rest will follow. Your presence is always felt with or without a post. What keeps Sean and I blogging is knowing that it is a swinging pendulum and a mile marker of time, happy clients, and documenting what is important to our soul and an archive of thoughts for our children. Have a sweet week.
    .-= Cindy´s last blog ..Taking Off =-.

    • Thank you. Friends like you inspire me to keep on being true to myself.

      I love the image of the pendulum. It doesn’t just make me think of swings that go from side to side; it evokes memories of a grandfather clock in an elderly relative’s house. I seem to remember it had a chain weighted at both ends and that each side had to be pulled down when it reached as high as it could go or else things simply stopped working.

    • A more vibrant life is definitely the aim! I enjoy the kind of blogging I do, but the break’s enabled me to do a groan test – I think of all the myriad aspects of blogging and then establish if any of those make me groan at the thought of returning to them. 😉 Today’s groans could probably be heard all the way to the USA. I lost my first long comment TWICE; the first time because I forgot to back it up as I went along and AOL crashed and the second time because I forgot to fill in my name and email address before I posted. It’s not my favourite kind of editing. 🙁 You’d think I’d have learned by now! I also need to get much better at finding, sizing and using photos. It takes me hours and I just know I must be missing something.

  4. I didn’t know you were gone. I’ve been on a break myself (my own illness and life) so I just figured you were here like always! That’s a good thing, when your blog feels to us like it’s there when we need it. And I don’t think anyone thinks twice about hiatuses, or even times when we get the “can’t find url” messages. I attribute them to my browser, or blog downtime.

    I am immersed in the hormonal changes of my mid-fifties. I don’t like it much except that it does put a fire under me now and then to DO SOMETHING… ANYTHING! I usually ignore that, so my blogging has been at a standstill. Apparently “nothing” keeps me blogging since I’m awol right now.

    I wish I were near family (mine is incredibly small). You’re lucky if you are. And nature hasn’t been too kind to us here this summer, heat and the fires (smoke) limited my time outdoors. I know you’re right about nature though.

    Oh, and I have the same urge to purge that you describe. I don’t need or want all the stuff I’ve accumulated over the years.
    I long for S P A C E to stretch out in my mind and my life.

    Your photo is beautiful 🙂
    .-= Diana Maus´s last blog ..Working with negative space in life =-.

    • I’m sorry to hear you haven’t been well or able to get out much. I hope things get better soon. I so empathise with that longing for S P A C E as you put it.

      It’s good to know that you feel you can just drop in any time you feel like a read and a chat. That’s why my dream for this blog was for it to have a café drop-in mentality, where no-one feels they have to do anything, where loyalty is always appreciated but never demanded and where people can snack on soulfood or simply sit quietly in a corner and read for a bit.

      By the way, I think it’s interesting that you think you’ve been AWOL from blogging. You are blogging, by my criteria; I consider reading and commenting on other folks’ blogs to be part of blogging. It wouldn’t be half as much fun if bloggers didn’t visit each other! I commented for months before I even launched this blog.

    • Thank you. I never take your support for granted. You hit the nail on the head with this phrase:

      whenever you feel inspired to share your thoughts with us

      Regular posting didn’t work out very well for me, so from now on, I’m only going to post when I’m really inspired to reach out and share something, whether it’s in a post, or my comments box or someone else’s comments box. I’m also going to make much better use of folks’ archives buttons and not feel like I’m letting them down if I don’t visit the day they post or comment every time I do visit.

  5. Hello Janice,
    Glad you are feeling better and are touching base. The nice thing about blogging is that you can just do it “your way” and it works. I see many have taken a break during the last few days of the season and especially for birthday celebrations.

    I too am purging and cleaning my house as I turn 60. I just gave my 3 daughters warning that I was renting a storage unit in two years and moving out their things and they can pay the rent. I do not want to be a storage unit. We are cleaning up our holiday celebrations this year too to make them focused on values and meaning.

    The time is right. I wrote about my changes too today.

    Loved your picture and your words. Feel better and better. Time is so healing…and refreshing.
    .-= Patricia´s last blog ..Inspired to Make a Few Changes =-.

    • I’m glad you liked the photo – it’s been a long time coming. I wanted to use one that looks like the real me feels.

      Isn’t it amazing how much we can get done when the time is right, when we listen to our bodies or respond to life’s seasons. I love the idea of getting kids to pay for their own storage – it’s inspired! We went through a few boxes of their toddler memory things last week and it was interesting how many things we’d kept for us, not them, and how many things got squeals of delight from them and shrieks of “Ooo, I remember that!”

      Tiredness has made clearing out easier. Getting clean and clear just seems so much more important than anything else right now. I’ve always kept on top of clutter, but I feel like I’ve gone into warp drive and this is about so much more than letting go of clutter. I’m getting rid of stillborn dreams, sad memories and outdated values, too.

  6. How surreal! We’ve been living with the same blogging issues.

    I corraled my four blogs into one and eliminated major stress and pressure.
    Even if I publish one post for the week, my faithfuly followers and subscribers can read previous posts without having to jump from one blog to another.

    In a sense, I am starting over and it feels, simple, uncluttered, liberating and adventurous.
    .-= Cheryl Wright´s last blog ..An old friend re-enters my life =-.

    • I love your use of “corraled”; it’s such a good image for all things blogging! Online activities and obsessions can feel like they have a life of their own, like spirited colts or wayward herds. I’m longing to spring clean my blog, too, to sort out my sidebars and actually upload all of my coaching books into my bookshop but it’ll happen at the right time. It’s not a should, it’s a want to. I fancy creating a seasonal banner, too, and getting more music posted. For all of that, I need to be rested and energised, so the trick is not to do too much, too soon.

      Good luck with the new blog setup!

    • I’m glad to be back. I was worried for a bit there; the longer I stayed away, the more daunting it got. I get far more back from running this ‘blog-café’ than I put into it. It’s the accumulation of all the blogging related activities that made it something I had to take a break from; if I hadn’t, I would have prolonged being ill.

      My son’s really funny. He’s an old soul and a born leader, and I sometimes feel part of his ‘mission’ this time around is to make me laugh so I don’t take myself so seriously.

  7. Janice, it’s been a pretty crazy run you’ve been on since at least April, when I first began to follow your voice around the blogosphere. You were everywhere, everyday, giving so much of yourself to so many people. Your blog and your comments on other blogs added so much meaning to any content. Looking back on it now, it’s a pretty incredible achievement. Just wanted to say I appreciate you. I missed you while you were gone. 🙂
    .-= Brenda´s last blog ..On Change =-.

    • Thanks Brenda. I appreciate you, too, and was touched by the concern you showed when I dropped off the radar.

      I didn’t realise how much I’d been doing every day until I took a step back. I do Kaizen coaching with clients, encouraging them to make tiny unscary changes every day. It dawned on me that my online workload, for want of a better word, was increasing almost imperceptibly every day, a new blog here, a guest invitation there, a new column, the offer of a regular spot on a favourite blog, all of it good, because I love what I do or I wouldn’t be doing it.

      You know how doctors often don’t take care of themselves and plumbers don’t fix their own appliances in time? When I coach folk who are overwhelmed, I always invite them to keep a daily chart with 15 minute increments so they can see exactly how they’re spending their time. Mine would show an inordinate amount of time dealing with WordPress uploads, AOL crashes and calculating the resizing arithmetic on photo uploads. I also realised I spend more time reading other blogs than I spend writing my posts; more time commenting on other blogs than I do responding to the people who take the time to visit these boxes. Something had to give. In my case, the universe chose the bombardment cocktail of family issues, ilness and a longing to get my house in order so I could write more in a place that expresses where we are now as a family.

    • Thanks Corinne! Like I said in the post, although I haven’t been feeling well, I’ve not really been unhappy. When the kids aren’t horrormoan-ridden, they’re very philosophical and funny. My husband came in one day and said, “So, you’ve finally killed the living room.” (Everything was cleared and only two sofas remained…) My son, whom I didn’t tell we were clearing out in order to eventually paint the walls and lay a new floor and who thinks I’ve entered a minimalist phase added “I like the space and the airiness, but I do think it needs just a few wee things to make it cozy, like curtains, cushions, another sofa, paintings, music, a rug or two, maybe some books…”

  8. Hi Janice – welcome back .. just glad to know you feel a little better, more centred, and more aware of what you can and can’t do – or what you can abide and can’t abide .. matching curtains and dirty rugs!!

    Life is too short – do what you want to do – enjoy yourself, be creative, read, be content and share with us when you can. Horrormoans – great word! We had Latin Voc – A – Bultry .. my little brother couldn’t say the word and we couldn’t understand .. and we just laughed and asked him to repeat it so we could make sense of it and he just got cross – because, of course, we must know what he’s talking about .. but only if it’s pronounced correctly .. not a jumbled vocabultry mess .. and we laughed on to this day ..

    Look after yourself and the family and your mother .. all the best
    Hilary Melton-Butcher
    Positive Letters Inspirational Stories
    .-= Hilary´s last blog ..Nuts with Peepholes, a name for talking about … =-.

    • Thanks, Hilary. I knew you’d understand because of what you’re going through yourself. Quite a few of the folk who take the time to comment here care for family members. My dad’s actually amazingly capable for his age, but it’s the responsibility that sometimes gets to me, the knowledge that if he doesn’t do his daily phone call, I’ll have to keep phoning all day till I get through or drive across two counties to see what’s up. I was the only family member not away on holiday last month, so I had him over here a lot as well as doing the supermarket shopping for him when he was at home. I’m lucky to still have him, but that doesn’t mean responsibility and anxiety get any less draining.

      Loved the vocabultry. We don’t have a utility room (laundry room/mudroom) in our house; we’ve had a tilly room since my daughter christened it that ten years ago.

  9. Janice — Farmers have learned to let their fields go fallow, meaning they aren’t planted for a season, sometimes more. I believe we, humans, are like fields. Every once in awhile, we need to go fallow; to let our bodies heal so we can become whole and ready to give again. It’s natural.

    I’m glad you took the time to feed and nurture your soil and I’m glad you’re back:~)
    .-= Sara´s last blog ..KindLike.Us: A new kindness community =-.

    • Thanks, Sara. I feel like I’ve come home – you know how some cafés and bistros feel like that?

      I love your farming analogy, and it’s one I’m going to really take to heart. Not just for the reasons you mentioned, but because the concept of crop rotation came to mind, too, and that seems to be the way my creativity operates; one project enriches the ground for a different one after it’s come to fruition or hasn’t yielded much.

  10. I love Sara’s thought about letting a field go fallow. How true, and what food for thought!

    I think I shall shamelessly copy your idea of celebrating my next birthday for five days–one day for each decade. I think I’ve told you about my friend, Candice, who turns her birthday into a three day celebration—Candice Eve, Candice, and Post Candice. This is even better because the older I get the longer the celebration goes on. Fantabulous idea, my dear.

    This sentence spoke volumes to me: “I don’t need to keep hundreds of letters, ornaments, and books in order to remember who I am, to know who I am, define who I am or show who I am.” I have had a problem with keeping things forever, a problem that I only learned this last summer to deal with. I have learned that I can throw out a decorative item that someone gave me twenty years ago, but that doesn’t match anything I own. I can throw out a note passed to me in 7th grade by long-ago friend. Throwing things away doesn’t kill my soul. What a shock! 🙂

    “…I need, quite simply, to have a life in the first place…”
    Well spoken. In my indulging of my love for reading, I too tend to spend more time than I should in blog-world. It’s those times when I feel I’m running dry on ideas, that I step back and say “Wait a minute. How can I blog about anything when I haven’t done anything?”

    Janice, this is simply a fantastic post. You have hit upon a theme that is so common to women, and that is self-sacrificing to the point of madness. So often we give and give and give and then wonder why our giving hands are empty. We need to take time to re-stock or we will never have anything left to give. But sometimes in the course of our giving, we forget to give anything to ourselves. We end up feeling empty and betrayed because the one person who should have taken care of us (ourselves) failed in her duty. I am so glad you have the wisdom to take care of yourself and to make sure your family knows that they are what matters the most. Blogs will always be here, but children grow up too soon, and husbands leave if they’re not watered and fed regularly. 🙂

    Love, love, love the photo. Your caring, beautiful spirit just shines through. What hits me the most as a viewer is the fact that you chose a picture where you are cuddling next to your child. A photo that just shouts, “No matter what else I am, I am first of all a mother.” It’s stunning and absolutely beautiful.

    Well done, my friend.
    .-= Randi´s last blog ..How to Strengthen Relationships by Using Surprise =-.

    • Thank you! I’m so glad I chose the right photo. It’s one I’ve always liked because it’s from a group photo of the four of us where we’re all laughing or smiling. They bring out the best in me.

      As you’ll have realised, this post grew out of the email I sent you. Many of my posts happen like that, emerging from a comment I’ve written somewhere or from an email. That’s why I try to make time to engage properly with folk if I can; that’s where life lies.

      Entire sections of your comment would make the basis of a great post, Randi. So would many of the comments I read by the people in these boxes.

      My birthday, and the age related annoyances that chose to share the journey with me, made me even more aware thn usual that my body’s got a hidden expiry date and that my kids are hurtling through life at frightening speed. I don’t want to end up blogging about how I missed my kids growing up and wasn’t there for them when they needed me to be engaged.

      I hope you’ll let me participate in the five day Happirandi fest!

  11. Hi janice
    What a glorious blog…I’ve only just nibbled on the first entry and really relished every word…I love the richness and sensuousness of your postings. Got you in my Reader now so I know when you have given us another juicy gem! Thank you for your work…and well done on honouring your self care.
    .-= Anne´s last blog ..Supervalue, washing up and why honesty really pays =-.

    • Great to have you over here! (Everyone, meet Anne. She’s one of my favourite coaches. A consciousness shifting session with her feels like a massage for the mind and the soul!)

      I hope the time will come when there are “juicy gems” in folks’ readers again. I’m certainly looking forward to the day when I can get back to doing what I originally set out to do: create and nurture a small community, share inspiring quotes, links, longer pieces, photos, music, poetry and guest posts that showcase the work of Sharing the Journey regulars and newcomers.

    • Thank you! I’m not surpised you burned out; your combined blogs are like a magazine, TV show and retail therapy all rolled into one! I, for one, am glad you recharged your spirit and are back.

      The comments here have taken me aback. So much empathy; I feel like I’ve been given the go-ahead to simply be myself by a bunch of great folk who’ve been in similar positions with parents, kids, illness or blogging. I’ve finished my course of antibiotics and the extra iron will make a big difference. The rest I’ll have to work through, but I know you’ll understand that the new rug I bought yesterday has given me a lift like no medicine could! I had our plumber in today, too, giving us quotes. The potential and promise of speaking to electricians, builders and plumbers always empowers me. They seem to appreciate my out of the box house solutions, when lots of other folk think I’m mad.

  12. Marianne Williamson has been a huge inspiration on my journey, I’ve read Return to Love and listened to many of her tapes…, also studied the Course in Miracles for a while.
    Regarding the book set on Nantucket you’re reading…, could it be The Beach House…, well that’s the one I’m going to feature pretty soon.
    I wish you all the best!
    .-= Maya@Completely-Coastal´s last blog ..Creating a Seashell Mosaic -or the second Life of a Vintage Mantel =-.

    • That’s so spooky – it is The Beach House! I look forward to reading your post. After I finished the book, I was left with my habitual craving for white clapboard houses, porch swings and all things coastal. The antidote? I bought some chalky off-white paint and a new mason jar that I’m going to use for displaying sea pebbles.

      Thank you for your good wishes. I’ve had The ‘Miracles’ book for a while, but it felt like the time had finally come to read it.

    • Thank you! I’ve missed all the blogs I visit regularly. Each one adds something to my life, and the comments, support and debate in their boxes all add yet another extra dimension. Your blog helps to reduce my anxiety, like some food lowers cholesterol! (My kids graded recently and are now two belts away from black, by the way. 😉 ) Thanks for the link.

    • Cheers, Vered. I’m feeling better every day; I’m just being careful not to overdo it. I’m a bit extreme that way.

      I wish there was a word for ‘keeping on top of clutter’, because I enjoy doing that, too. It’s less severe than excessive minimalism and means I tend to acquire an awful lot less stuff in the first place. I started holding on to more stuff when we moved here; this house is much smaller than our last and I miss having a separate study. We didn’t have time to sort stuff before we moved as my husband was offered his current job on the condition that he take it quickly.

      Buying a loft ladder was one of the worst things we did; good in some ways, but it makes it so much more tempting to put stuff out of sight while we’re ‘working out what to do with it’ i.e. keeping it because tough decisions should be being made!

    • I’ve already written two responses to your comment, Barbara, but I think I accidentally deleted the first, and I have no idea what happened to the second. I can’t risk a third one in case the folk who are subscribed to comments have got all of them! I’ll email you.

  13. Dear Janice, thank you for logging back on. I was wondering what was up because your feeds weren’t changing. I was hoping that you were on vacation. Although you haven’t been feeling well in the process, perhaps you have been on vacation. You vacated from the blogging for a time that felt right to you and in that time you came to new realizations about your blogging. What a gift! Thank you for sharing it with this community of writers and readers. I am experiencing similar thoughts and feelings regarding the “Stuff” and the activities on which I spend my time. It helps to know that I’m not alone. It really does, Janice. I have thought for awhile about starting a blog simply to talk to someone (whether someone was there or not 🙂 . I think one of the things holding me back is the responsibility of communicating with others and the commitment of posts. I think you’re wonderful in your responses to your commenters. But I can see where it all takes time…..and when you have children (especially when you have children) time goes by so fast that you have to be very judicious about how you spend it. It’s gone in a flash. A lesson I’m learning later in life, but better learned late than not at all. You have been (and will continue to be) an inspiration to anyone who has read your blog. Thank you for your generosity, Janice. Blessings to you and yours. Ciaran

    • This really moved me, Ciaran. If you plan to blog like you comment, I’d go right ahead. The trick is to do exactly what inspires you and adds to your life. I like to visit blogs where good folk hang out and make an effort to get to know each other. Almost all the bloggers I enjoy and support take the time to respond to commenters and appreciate the communities they’ve created. You could have that wonderful feeling of connection with just a few visitors and then decide if you wanted to expand your reach or not.

      Thank you for taking the time to tell me that what I share here adds something to your life; that’s a precious gift to give any blogger. I deliberately named my blog so that I wouldn’t feel pressurised into writing certain kinds of posts. I try to find the good in most things I experience, but I don’t always manage. Some days, all I can hope for from my posts is that someone, somewhere, feels they’re not alone.

      Blogging is a wonderful tool for making us feel empowered; we can be our own bosses and keep on top of our themes and our content. We can also develop our self-editing skills by remembering that anyone can read a post once we press submit. I think what’s been overwhelming for me is how lucky I was that Mary over at Write to Done gave me the chance to launch with a post there. I’d been prepared to only have one or two visitors for the first couple of months and build up gradually. The response I got from appearing there blew me away but it also made me feel I had to repay folks’ kindness and expectations by delivering quality stuff frequently, and I haven’t been able to keep it up. Kudos to all the bloggers who can!

  14. I am glad you are feeling better. I enjoy your posts whenever you have them. I like your picture too. I have been in transition lately and have not been able to visit my “blogging friends” as often as I did. I also am ending the writing prompt blog I had to just concentrate on The Writer Today writing blog. It is easier for me to manage one blog instead of two. I also want to dedicate more time to writing and finally get to writing a novel. I will follow you even if you post once a month, so please do not stop! God Bless.
    .-= Ana – The Writer Today´s last blog ..Nine Life Lessons =-.

    • Thank you, Ana. It’s good to know that posting frequency isn’t an issue. Reading all these comments has contributed to the feeling of focused calm I have at the moment.

      It’s interesting that you and Cheryl have both decided to focus on fewer blogs and other folk have been having breaks or reducing the amount of days a week they post. Maybe it’s the Autumn effect; I know I get introspective as well as ‘nesty’ every September.

      Good luck with the novel!!

  15. Janice,

    I am so sorry to hear you were under the weather. But your post beautifully illustrates how important it is that we making living in our “real life” the priority. Blogging is so wonderfully addictive and meaningful to us that it is hard to know when to say “when”…until sometimes it is too late and we’ve gone overboard. I’m glad you took some time off and pray you will find the balance we all need!

    Thanks for your sweet words of encouragement on my blog and on yours!

    blessings,
    Melissa
    .-= melissa @ the inspired room´s last blog ..Simple & Charming Ideas =-.

    • You’re welcome! I’m feeling much better and it’s such a relief to be on top of things again. The house still looks like a construction site, but that doesn’t worry me. I love this stage; it’s so full of promise and potential. I see it as the broken eggs in the bowl stage even though I’m not sure if I’m making an omelette, scrambled eggs or a quiche yet. It’s good to feel inspired again; one of the scariest symptoms I get when I’m ill is dips of indifference and it’s just not like me.

    • Thanks Peggy. I’m glad you’ve found our wee bistro and I look forward to getting to know you. You’ll always find what we Scots call ‘kent faces’ here – people you know. We belong to an amazing overlapping community of great folk with a lot in common and lots to offer!

      • American by birth…Scottish by my grandparents…I think I’ve found good company indeed! Speaking of Scottish things, I’m heading to the Scottish Highland Games this weekend at Loon Moutain…there’s just something about a man in a kilt throwing a caber…
        .-= Peggy´s last blog ..Capturing Your Opportunity =-.

        • This made me smile as I avoid all highland Games like the plague! The family I lived with in Paris had never been up the Eiffel Tower and my Greek friends have never been up the Acropolis! There are only a few men I’d love to see in a kilt, but they are all the more special for just being a few… 😉

    • Thanks, Davina. I’m enjoying the posts about your wonderful break. After that heartfelt post you wrote about feeling uninspired, it was good to see you back refreshed. Your last two posts have strengthened my resolve to get out and engage with the world so that I have something to share with the folk in our community. I like to think of us all as unique waves in one big ocean.

  16. Glad to hear that you are feeling better, and welcome back!
    Know that you are not alone, when it comes to suffering from any kind of health problems. The menopause problem is the worst! I am slowly getting over it myself, but my, what suffering we women have to endure.

    I never back up my postings. Now it looks like I should. Thanks for the tip and for sharing your life journey with us. Really enjoy reading your blog.
    .-= E. Thai´s last blog ..The best vacation destinations in Tennessee, part 2 (Nashville) =-.

    • I’m glad you enjoy all of my patchwork posting! I’m very lucky that folk take the time to sift through all the hotchpotch pieces of my life and find something useful or something they can empathise with. I’ve been so heartened and inspired by the comments on this post, it’s got me twitching to do some good stuff to thank folk for sticking by me and helping me get back on track.

      My antibiotics worked and the iron’s kicked in, too. As for the age-related stuff, I grow more philosophical by the day; at times, it’s all I can manage. But I’m happy and that’s the main thing. Everything else is do-able. One of my favourite phrases is This too shall pass…

  17. Horrormoans…love it!

    Glad to see you back…you have had some crazy things going on. Good for you to un-plug for a while. It’s so important to let go and life life off line. I totally get the blogging OCD…it’s way to addictive and I have to just walk away at times.

    I am glad you are feeling better and stronger. Continue to listen to your body…when it’s tired, rest.

    Be well…
    .-= Caroline´s last blog ..Limb =-.

    • Thanks, Caroline. I’m wondering why I haven’t had feed alerts from your blog recently, but maybe I’m only subscribed to the photo one. I’ll have to check. I think you and I aren’t the only bloggers with blogging OCD or at least the start of it. I feel much more in control of it since coming back. What I’m curious about now is how my new found clarity will affect the frequency of my posts and visits, and the length of any posts and comments I write.

  18. Hi Janice,

    It’s great to have you back, but this time on your terms. It is easy to get caught up with blogging. I have. And now have my posting schedule down to two days a week – much more manageable with all I have to do in real life, including deculttering, too. 🙂

    With blogging there is no rules, so don’t feel guilty if you’re not posting regularly or if you decide you need a break away from it all. As you can see from the previous comments, we’ll all be here when you return.

    It’s good to have you back. I hope you’re feeling better.

    (((hugs)))
    .-= Barbara Swafford´s last blog ..Tapping Into A Larger Audience =-.

    • I’m blaming the horrormoans, but the response to this post – which I thought might end up drifting through a ghost town like tumbleweed – has moved me inexplicably. I ought to have known that the kind of folk in our community don’t abandon each other, but I didn’t realise how many folk come and go and are welcomed back with open arms after absences. I didn’t realise how strong the ebb and flow factor of blogging is, even though I’ve seen it first hand in other blogs.

      I’m glad your new routine suits you. It suits me, too, for selfish reasons. Your posts and comment threads are very information rich and worth taking the time to absorb.

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