I love link-surfing, going from link to link and drifting out into uncharted waters. My last bit of surfing took me to Greece. Intrigued by the mention of Chania – my work often took me to Crete – I followed a lovely comment by a new visitor, Chania Girl, to her site. I found a beautiful blog and a post with a great interview. That’s a good way to get to know people, I thought. At the end of the post, she asked if anyone would like to be interviewed by her. I said yes, and here it is.
Being spontaneous is fun. I enjoy being my own boss and mixing things up! Being interviewed by others is another good way of finding our voices – the more hard questions and surprises, the better!
I haven’t used all of Chania Girl’s questions here; some overlapped with posts I actually had planned and others were so good I think she should use them as entire posts in her own blog! But here are a few of my favourites.
Chania Girl: If you could give your twenty year old self some advice, what would it be? What would you tell her?
Janice: I’d say “Everything’s meant and the pain passes. Love! Just keep loving. Things will work out OK.” I’d also say “Write home more.” and “Sing your heart out while you can. Write, write and never stop.” Although it’s really tempting, I wouldn’t give her any advice that might change her life direction; everything that’s happened since then was meant, even the bad stuff. Even things that became regrets were meant to happen.
Chania Girl: If I were meeting you for the first time, what would my first impression of you be? Would I be correct?
Janice: Some people find me unsettling; others have been put off by the haunted eyes if they’ve caught me off guard. Some are uneasy because they can’t pigeonhole me when we start chatting and I ask unusual questions. Most people who read this blog would feel instantly at home if we chatted, like we’d already met but couldn’t quite remember where.
Chania Girl: What it is the best piece of advice you have ever been given? Why?
Janice: Too hard! I’ve needed – and been given – loads! My mum always said “What’s afore ye’ll no go past ye” because I often felt out of step and left out of things as a child and a teenager. It means if destiny’s got something planned for you, it’ll happen, no matter what you do.
Advice from books? First two that come to mind are “All must be deeply felt” and “Do the next indicated thing”. The first is one of my favourite Katherine Mansfield quotes and the second is a stunningly simple piece advice from Victoria Moran that works when I’m stuck or overwhelmed. One wee step at a time, believing that the universe is guiding me, I get through most things and often end up surprising myself.
Chania Girl: What makes you laugh?
Janice: My son was born knowing how to make me laugh, like he was sent on an undercover mission. It’s his timing. ‘Friends’ videos and great one-liners in films and ‘The West Wing’ make me snort with laugher. My husband doing jokes in foreign accents gets me every time. So does my daughter’s ear for the ridiculous which she captures in the dialogue she writes in her stories. Most of my friends have a drole, mischievous and wry sense of humour. One makes me laugh till I cry and my sides hurt.
Chania Girl: What qualities do you like most about yourself?
Janice: The first few that came to mind were resilience, loyalty, empathy, creative resourcefulness, honesty and a ridiculous bold determination to be authentic and do the right thing – even when it gets me into trouble!
Thanks Chania Girl – it was fun!
I’d love to hear your answers to any of those questions.