Comments on: Choose the Right Words and Change your Life http://sharingthejourney.co.uk/coaching_moments/choose-the-right-words-and-change-your-life/ soul food and support for coaches, writers and homemakers Wed, 02 Mar 2011 16:57:34 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Afternoon Reading | Link Love Friday http://sharingthejourney.co.uk/coaching_moments/choose-the-right-words-and-change-your-life/comment-page-1/#comment-2751 Afternoon Reading | Link Love Friday Sat, 10 Apr 2010 13:12:45 +0000 http://sharingthejourney.co.uk/?p=732#comment-2751 [...] to help others find their authentic self. You can start digging right now by reading her posts Choose the Right Words and Change Your Life, Silence For the Writing Soul and Finding Your Voice in the Silence. (That last one asks some great [...] [...] to help others find their authentic self. You can start digging right now by reading her posts Choose the Right Words and Change Your Life, Silence For the Writing Soul and Finding Your Voice in the Silence. (That last one asks some great [...]

]]> By: Solomon http://sharingthejourney.co.uk/coaching_moments/choose-the-right-words-and-change-your-life/comment-page-1/#comment-326 Solomon Mon, 04 May 2009 14:41:00 +0000 http://sharingthejourney.co.uk/?p=732#comment-326 Janice, I can't tell you how I felt when I had a terrible fight with my wife. I was on the brink of a deep depression for a whole two days. The problem with me: I give whole lot of importance to the words we speak and hear. I hate the words that trigger guilt in the other person: I told you that....., I know it happens....., You're always like to insult me....., Why did you drop the bottle.... If you carefully observe these words ... they all smack a lack of trust in the other person, a lack of genuine willingness to understand from the other one's perspective. My son was born and my world of words taken an evolution. I try to bring up the big picture of my vision of seeing him as a great human being, comes in. I try to tell each word that explain him what went wrong and connect it to the big picture I have of him. I'm sometimes guilty of labelling him - lazy, useless.... and I feel terribly sorry and apologize to him. I cry each time he says sorry so many times for little mistakes, or foibles, he commits. That makes me a proud father to him and me bringing him up close to the big picture I had of him. ( I liked what your daughter said... It's good to be kind than right. But, I liked the three step apology of yours. I often don't dwell on how it hurt him or her. But, I understood with my wife.... I can't change her words overnight, but rather not dig deep into her words. May be some of them have no real meaning to it. :-))) I was told by my sister who is illiterate.... just don't listen those words of your wife when she argues .... go out and sit outside. I value her intelligence and her practical knowledge. Cindy too has great tips to have a happy marriage.... and @ Karen.. "I hate you did that" is quite meaningful. Thanks for the post, and look forward for more.... <abbr><em>Solomon´s last blog post..<a href="http://creativesolomon.blogspot.com/2009/04/go-crazy-it-helps-you-learn-and-win.html" rel="nofollow">Go Crazy …. It helps you LEARN and WIN</a></abbr></em> Janice,
I can’t tell you how I felt when I had a terrible fight with my wife. I was on the brink of a deep depression for a whole two days.
The problem with me: I give whole lot of importance to the words we speak and hear.
I hate the words that trigger guilt in the other person: I told you that….., I know it happens….., You’re always like to insult me….., Why did you drop the bottle….
If you carefully observe these words … they all smack a lack of trust in the other person, a lack of genuine willingness to understand from the other one’s perspective.
My son was born and my world of words taken an evolution. I try to bring up the big picture of my vision of seeing him as a great human being, comes in. I try to tell each word that explain him what went wrong and connect it to the big picture I have of him.
I’m sometimes guilty of labelling him – lazy, useless…. and I feel terribly sorry and apologize to him.
I cry each time he says sorry so many times for little mistakes, or foibles, he commits. That makes me a proud father to him and me bringing him up close to the big picture I had of him. ( I liked what your daughter said… It’s good to be kind than right.
But, I liked the three step apology of yours. I often don’t dwell on how it hurt him or her.
But, I understood with my wife…. I can’t change her words overnight, but rather not dig deep into her words. May be some of them have no real meaning to it. :-) ))
I was told by my sister who is illiterate…. just don’t listen those words of your wife when she argues …. go out and sit outside. I value her intelligence and her practical knowledge.
Cindy too has great tips to have a happy marriage…. and @ Karen.. “I hate you did that” is quite meaningful.
Thanks for the post, and look forward for more….

Solomon´s last blog post..Go Crazy …. It helps you LEARN and WIN

]]> By: Subjecting yourself to the scrutiny of others | Authentic Mama http://sharingthejourney.co.uk/coaching_moments/choose-the-right-words-and-change-your-life/comment-page-1/#comment-258 Subjecting yourself to the scrutiny of others | Authentic Mama Wed, 29 Apr 2009 17:17:59 +0000 http://sharingthejourney.co.uk/?p=732#comment-258 [...] been hurt) it is importatant to choose our words carefully- I absolutely love this post from Janice Choose the right words and change your life Twitter This [...] [...] been hurt) it is importatant to choose our words carefully- I absolutely love this post from Janice Choose the right words and change your life Twitter This [...]

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